I have been pressured and I have caved. So here we are with the Peer Pressure Tag that Annie tagged me in. I hope this isn’t too delayed or comes off too dark. Any who, take a gander at the rules and my answers and let’s go!
- Link back to the creator, which is Random Thoughts of My Fandoms.
- Provide a link to the person who tagged you.
- Answer all questions honestly
- Come up with 5 questions of your own. (4 have to be about peer pressure; 1 can be random and about whatever)
- Tag at least 10 people and provide links to their blogs. Please no “you!”
- Recommend at least 5 books or songs you see everywhere/are very popular that you’ve read or listened to.
- Use the hashtag #peer pressure tag for easier visibility
1. Have you ever done anything because you were scared you’d be missing out? (FOMO)
Probably. The biggest example I can think of is going to Prom in high school, which wasn’t even peer pressure so much as societal pressure? My friends and I would have been fine not going at all, but we decided to go as a group and dance since I lived so close to the venue. I’m sure there were other events as well especially in my younger years.
2. Do you often do things just because your friends or someone close to you is doing it?
Not particularly. I usually ask them about it, and be an active listener when they talk about it of course. Sometimes I become interested in it, sometimes I don’t. I’m not opposed to trying it, but I’ll never fake being interested in something. Doing that only hurts people.
3. Have you ever felt uneasy about giving your opinion simply because it would be unpopular?
Yes, all the time. Part of it is how my speech patterns are in real life. I am very much the person who does not think before they speak, but immediately knows I could have worded it better or not said anything at all after saying something. I’ve gotten better at this in general, but when it’s paired with an unpopular opinion it’s a recipe for disaster.
Online, I think I’m a lot better about this. My posts go through a lot of cuts and edits since my first draft is probably the most scathing or critical I will ever be about a subject. Blogging has made me a lot more articulate about my opinions, unpopular or not.
I also try to remember that not everyone is going to agree, because it’s an opinion. We’re all allowed to have one.
4. Do you ever find yourself running away from popular things because you don’t want to be labelled as “basic?”
Not for being “basic”. I own the basic label when it comes to most everything, especially Starbucks drink orders and my outfits I wear to work.
I do ‘run away’ from popular things, because they’re popular. Their fanbases tend to be big and somewhat aggressive if you expression an opinion that doesn’t flow with popular consensus. So… coupled with what I mentioned above, I tread lightly in those spaces.
5. (Random question) What’s your dream job?
Ummm… not sure. I guess one where I can have a humble place to live, a pet or two, and is permanent.
- What kind of blogging pressures have you come across?
The balance between writing about popular topics, and writing about things I want to write about. You want to write about popular things because well, that gets clicks and engagement. I’m not above saying I do in fact crave engagement. A single comment feeds my ego a lot these days lol. But writing about what I want to write about isn’t always popular, so… balance is key.
2. How do you deal with peer pressure?
I don’t. As a grown adult (most of the time), I very rarely feel pressured to do things at this point. I get pangs of wanting to ‘fit in’ by joining a bigger franchise fandom. Sometimes I get FOMO because I turned down an invitation to something and it ended up being really cool according to those that went. However, I’ve found more often then not ‘giving in’ to peer pressure has gone bad more times then it went well in my experience so… I bank on experience being the best indicator of potential outcomes.
3. When has peer pressure ever had a positive effect on you?
I can’t think of any situation where I was pressured to do something and it had a positive result off the top of my head. It’s probably because I associate peer pressure as being a negative thing, like the idea of someone saying “you should do/watch this thing”, which is a command statement. Most of my friends or people I would take suggestions from would say, “Let’s do/watch this thing together”. Phrasing matters a lot to me.
Also it’s been quite awhile since I’ve been in a group of people or had a ton of in-person contact with people to feel pressured so I don’t remember what it feels like really lol.
4. What advice would you give to others dealing with peer pressure?
Know your boundaries. Things like trying a new food, starting a new hobby or watching a new TV show are things that you can be peer pressured into doing. But being pressured to do these things isn’t something that typically will have too negative of an impact. However, it’s important to know where you draw the line i.e. “I would love to try *dish name here* but I have food allergies. Do you know if it has *ingredient you’re allergic to* in it?”
Additionally, if you wouldn’t ask that person for help, or advice, don’t do anything they’re trying to pressure you into. Even if it’s as seemingly as harmless as ‘oh you should watch this tv show’: don’t do it. Trust your gut on that stuff.
5. (Random question) What fictional world or what kind of fictional world would you like to live in?
Umm… one where I don’t have to pay taxes? That’d be dope. I’d deal with monsters and stuff if there were, but this adult thing of taxes kinda sucks and I’m over it.
- What’s the best result you’ve had from doing something because peer pressure? (I.E. made new friends, discovered a new TV show, etc)
- What’s the worst result you’ve had from doing something because of peer pressure? (If it’s really bad, skip this.)
- During your time online, blogging or not, what’s the best case of peer pressure going well that you’ve seen/experienced?
- If you have a funny story involving peer pressure, can you share it here? (If not, give advice on dealing with peer pressure)
- (Random question) What is a video that lives in your head rent free? Link it in this post.
- Honey Lemon Soda
- Tokyo Ghoul
- Daytime Shooting Star
- Boku no Hero Academia